His Wife’s No Longer In Love With Him And Wants To Get Divorced, But He’s Still Trying To Save Their Marriage
This 50-year-old man says he’s been happily married to his 50-year-old wife for close to 25 years. They have two children together, who are both in college, and he’s so very proud of them.
Recently, he made the decision to retire, and he says that they can afford to have his wife follow suit, but she likes her job.
Then, a year ago, he decided to go on a solo backpacking trip, since his wife was too tied up with work to go with him.
His wife was completely supportive of him, so he ended up taking five months away to go on his trip.
“She sent me care packages, met up with me when possible, communicated via text every day, and we did video chats when I was in town,” he explained.
“I expressed my gratitude to her, and I had no idea anything was amiss. Soon after I returned home (after being away for over 5 months), her father had health issues and passed away.”
“My wife saw a therapist for her grief. A few weeks later, she communicated to me that she felt our emotional connection had diminished and wanted us to go to couples counseling.”
He replied that he wanted a chance at attempting to fix their marriage on their own, so he bought them a self-help book.
His wife was open to his idea, and they read the book and began doing the exercises in there. After some time, he genuinely believed their marriage was on the up and up.
fizkes – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
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But one day, his wife said she is simply no longer in love with him anymore. He was shocked, as he thought the book was helping them improve, so then he agreed to go to counseling with his wife.
In counseling, his wife filled the therapist in on what was going on, and the therapist asked them both if they were devoted to putting in the work on their marriage.
He jumped to say yes, but his wife took a few moments prior to mentioning that she wanted to think about it.
“Since then, she told me she wanted a divorce since couples therapy was hopeless,” he said.
“I asked her, don’t you want to at least try? She then said she wants to focus on working on herself and finding her own voice and she can’t do that and work on our marriage at the same time.”
“So I said, how about we don’t rush into this, and we give you time to work on yourself and check back in a couple of weeks, and she agreed.”
He has been going to therapy on his own, and he figured that everything looked to be improving in his marriage.
Earlier today, his wife stated she wants to separate officially, as she can’t live in the same house as him and keep working on herself.
He made his wife a reservation at a nearby campground so she’s going to stay there for the weekend, and he helped her get her stuff packed. From the campground, his wife is going to her mom’s house for one night before heading to a local hotel for a night. This will give his wife plenty of alone time for the upcoming week.
“I have no idea what will happen next, but I no longer have much optimism,” he continued. “I want to save our marriage, any advice for me? Please be kind.”
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