His Sister-In-Law Is Marrying A Convicted Murderer Who’s Apparently Turning His Life Around, But He Still Wants To Protect His Kids
When you don’t approve of a person one of your relatives decides to marry, it can be quite upsetting, as that person technically will be a part of your family.
One man is unsure what to do after his sister-in-law’s husband, whom he does not trust because he was convicted of murder years ago, began crossing some of his boundaries.
He’s been with his wife for 20 years, and they have children together. He’s very happy with her, and they have a great life. However, there’s been a lot of tension between him and his wife’s family, as he strongly does not approve of his sister-in-law’s fiancé.
“My sister-in-law started a relationship with a man while he was serving life in prison for murder,” he revealed.
“The murder, according to the press, was a brutal and unprovoked attack during which a man died. The fiancé is one of three sent to prison on life sentences, which in my part of the world means about 20 years behind bars. He was released about two years ago and moved in straight away with my sister-in-law and her kids. To his credit, in that time, he has graduated, is holding down a good job, they have had a baby together, and overall is making a good go of life.”
While he’s impressed with his future brother-in-law’s attempts to clean up his life over the years, he still can’t shake his past or get over it. His sister and her fiancé have had a fully functioning family for years, and their kids are teenagers.
However, their kids don’t know anything about their dad’s past, and his wife’s family has been sworn to secrecy, which bothers him.
He’s had to establish boundaries with his future brother-in-law and hoped he would always respect them.
“I feel I am having to carry this burden and bareface a lie every time I meet up with the extended family,” he said.
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“I am also starting to worry about the fact that I am eventually going to be asked to lie to my own kids once they are old enough. [The two boundaries] I put in place until we understood what this guy was about were broken. The boundaries were that he does not meet my kids without our prior approval, [but] this was broken within 24 hours. [The second was] he does not come anywhere near our house, [and] his was broken last week. I completely flipped out.”
When his future brother-in-law went to his house without his approval, he freaked out, and his wife’s side of the family was not supportive. They told him he had a problem and had to get over it as his sister-in-law’s fiancé got over his past.
“I have told my wife that as the boundaries we put in place are not being respected [and], I feel the only next step I can take is to step away from her side of the family and have no contact [with them] for my own well-being,” he added.
“I am not making her pick and choose, and she, of course, is welcome to see her family. The only difference is I will not be in attendance. You can imagine how that went down. I am now worried that I have overreacted.”
Did he overreact, or is his wife’s family not respecting his feelings?
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