Her Marriage Has Gone Downhill Ever Since Her Husband Lost His Father And Quit His Job, So She Told Him That He Feels More Like A Roommate Than A Partner
This 40-year-old woman and her husband, who is 42, tied the knot three years ago. But, while their marriage was initially wonderful and they were really happy, things in their relationship went downhill after her father-in-law unexpectedly passed away just two weeks later.
Following the tragedy, her husband actually quit his job because it reminded him too much of his father. And she understood that at the time.
However, things have been particularly difficult for her since that was years ago, and her husband still does not have a job.
For some context, it’s not just her and her husband alone in their home, either. In fact, back when they were dating, they decided to adopt three out of her sister-in-law’s seven children.
“So, with my son from a previous marriage and our daughter, it brings the tally up to five [kids],” she said.
On top of that, her mother-in-law lives with them as well because she isn’t in good health. This has left her trying to support their entire family on her own.
She currently works over 40 hours a week, earning just $15 an hour; meanwhile, her husband doesn’t work and rarely ever cooks or cleans around the house.
“I try to talk with him, but I always end up too emotional to continue the conversation, or he says, wasn’t it enough that he worked while I didn’t,” she explained.
“I had given birth and couldn’t find childcare, so I was a stay-at-home mom for a year until I found a babysitter.”
Khorzhevska – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
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That’s why, for the past three months, their marriage has been especially strained. Her husband hasn’t even slept in the same bed as her. He just keeps claiming that he “fell asleep” on the couch every night and only goes into their bedroom if he wants some romance.
The final straw for her, though, was on their anniversary this month. To her surprise, her husband just completely forgot about it. Then, when she got upset, he claimed he would “make it up” to her but just proceeded to ignore her the entire next day.
So, she keeps waking up alone and seriously hurt. Yesterday morning was no different.
That day, she helped get their daughter ready for school. Then, as she was walking out the door, her husband tried to kiss her, and she really didn’t want him. That’s why she turned away.
He was taken aback and tried to tell her not to “be that way.” He also claimed it was an accident that he fell asleep on the couch again.
“I told him I don’t have time for roommate drama. I have to get the kids on the bus and go to work,” she recalled.
Well, ever since she called her husband her roommate, he’s been angry at her – calling her a jerk. On the one hand, she realizes that the comment may have been petty, too, and that dealing with grief doesn’t come with a one-size-fits-all timeline.
“But I still haven’t been able to grieve my losses. I still work, and I’m still here doing the best I can. So, why can’t he?” she vented.
Nonetheless, she still can’t help but wonder if telling her husband he feels more like a roommate was the wrong way to handle that situation.
How would you feel if you were in her shoes? Can you understand why she feels this way about their relationship? What should she do?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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