The 13 signs that someone is 'dangerously good' at reading people
Some people are just naturally good at reading others. They pick up on subtle cues, body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions that go over other people’s heads. They are adept at seeing past other people's words and cuing into the energy or emotions behind them.People who are great at reading others have a significant advantage in being creative, building relationships, and building teams. But where does it come from? Why does it seem like some people have an extra social muscle that others just don’t?Some posit that people who are adept at reading others often come from backgrounds where they grew up with chaotic parents or family members. To preserve themselves, they become keen observers of subtle clues to protect themselves against abusive outbursts. A person uses the Babbel appBabbelBabbel’s Biggest Sale of the Year: Get 67% off. Lifetime Subscriptions For $199This makes them excellent students of tone of voice, body language, and emotional states so that they can defend themselves. An angry man in his kitchen.via Canva/PhotosTo those who aren’t brilliant at reading others, these people’s skills seem mysterious at best. So, a Reddit user posed a question to the AskReddit forum to see what other people have noticed about people who are great at reading others. “What's a sign that someone is dangerously good at reading people?” they asked. They received over 1,300 replies, and we compiled the best. Here are 13 signs that someone is “dangerously good” at reading people.1. You immediately overshare"You feel comfortable talking to them and you find yourself sharing things with them you don’t typically share."2. They're hard to read"They themselves are typically hard to read.""Or better yet people think they are reading you and know you but all they know is what you want them to think they know."3. They're neutral observers"Observe the person. It helps if you’re naturally empathetic. You can tell when they’re being sincere or when there’s motivation. You can hear it in their voice when they’re nervous, jealous, or uncomfortable. You can see it in their face. You can feel when their energy pauses, dips, or spikes. The key is to be neutral yourself. If you’re not invested in the outcome of the interaction at all, you can read others better.""My mom is the one who tipped me off to this. She said it was the key to learning about our lives when we were preteens and teens. She said she was careful not to ever react in big ways to anything we said, especially if it was negative, because if she did we would be more likely to stop providing info. If she acted neutral, we’d keep talking." A woman having a good conversation.via Canva/Photos4. They had unpredictable parents"Some people who grew up with unpredictable parents become hyper-observant of micro-expressions. When coupled with empathy and a good memory, they can ask good questions at the right time, or pick up on unspoken emotions (or intentions/danger). This can be a blessing and a curse.""This is exactly how I got good at reading people. If I found myself unable to predict what my father was going to do next, there's a good chance bad things happen to me. It's born out of necessity."5. They know you before you open your mouth"They clock your mood or thoughts before you’ve even said anything. They would ask really specific questions. Not nosy, just oddly on point. Also, watch how fast they adjust. You’re all fired up, and they’re calm and grounding."6. They're accurate"When they say something about you that you’ve never told anyone, but it’s scarily accurate... like ?? How do you know that, that’s when you know they’re built different."7. They may sabotage themselves"People who are highly intuitive, very observant and understands people dynamics usually at the expense of knowing themselves well at times.""OH MY GOD. This. This this this. This is exactly my wife who is by far the best people person I've ever seen...and she's terrible at understanding herself or solving her own problems." A man and woman in deep conversation. via Canva/Photos8. They understand receptivity"Children and animals like and trust them. They are constantly aware of the receptivity levels of others."9. They ask the right questions"When they ask lots of questions to people, especially when they’re based off observations.You usually don’t ___ and i see now you’re ___, is everything alright?Since you’ve been dating your partner, I’ve noticed _____. What’s up?I’ve noticed when you feel like ____ you usually do _____, and you’ve been doing ____ lots recently, how come?NEVER in a way which sounds or is judgemental, is always evidence based, and as a result people are often willing to open up and elaborate more without fear of being judged. My friends do this and I try so hard to learn from them."10. They don't show it"One of the biggest signs that someone is exceptionally skilled at reading people is that they don’t show it. People who are truly skilled observers mask their awareness and let others underestimate them while they quietly collect insight. They downplay their intuition and pretend to guess poorly. Also, they ask or say things that are psychologically strategic."11. You don't know them, but they know you"You feel super close to them, very comfortable sharing anything with them and consider them a close friend. In retrospect, you realize you know next to nothing about them beyond the surface."12. They can make friends with anyone"I had a friend who was insanely good at reading people. He once told me 'if I want you to be my friend, you will.' I believed it too. He could be friends with anyone.""That's kinda creepy ngl, smacks of the Machiavellian type more than the empathetic type."13. You're afraid to lie around them"You feel like you’re talking to a raven and you’re scared to lie."This article originally appeared in May.
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