His Girlfriend Doesn’t Pay Any Rent Or Feel Like She Should Have To Do Chores, And He Feels Like He’s Just A Wallet To Her
This 30-year-old guy and his girlfriend, who’s 26, have been dating for around a year, and they moved in together three months into their relationship. However, he’s become pretty irritated by their current split of household responsibilities.
Now, he and his girlfriend lead very different lives. She is going to school at the moment and working part-time on the side, earning anywhere from $700 to $1,100 on a monthly basis.
He, on the other hand, has a solid career and makes 10 times more than she does. That’s why he’s paid for practically all of their living expenses, such as rent, utilities, his own car, which she sometimes borrows, their food, dates, and vacations.
“She sometimes pitches in for coffee or buys some groceries, but rarely. And we clean up together. I do my own laundry. She sometimes does it for me,” he explained.
“I get a maid once in a while to clean up, which I pay for, too.”
He doesn’t feel like they’re fairly dividing up the household chores, though, which is why, around five months ago, he asked his girlfriend to start pitching in more.
He wanted her to either start giving him $200 or $300 a month toward rent and utilities, which cost $1,400. Or she could take on the task of making sure their house stayed clean, whether she did it herself or paid for a maid.
Well, his girlfriend didn’t take kindly to his ideas and claimed she didn’t want to be his “servant.”
“Which felt really off because what am I then, a wallet?” he asked.
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“It really isn’t about the financials here, as I can fully pay for everything and have a bunch leftover. I just feel like we aren’t putting in an equal amount of effort into our household and day-to-day.”
More recently, his girlfriend has begun cleaning most of their home, except for his office. Still, he’s not happy because she constantly complains about the chores.
He also doesn’t think she’s very good at cleaning since their house usually ends up more disorganized after she tries to tidy up. He’s even attempted to “gently” give her some constructive criticism, but she didn’t appreciate his feedback.
So, one day, he decided to take it upon himself to reorganize their whole place. He threw out a ton of old boxes and useless garbage before literally labeling where everything in their house should go.
“I feel bad about it, and it honestly makes it feel like I’m ‘forcing’ her to do this. We keep coming back to the same argument,” he detailed.
Apparently, his girlfriend keeps saying that since he earns enough to get a maid, he should just do it. That’s even pushed him to hire a maid on occasion just to give his girlfriend some help.
Nonetheless, he doesn’t think their current arrangement is sustainable, and he’s genuinely considering breaking up with his girlfriend over it.
“It feels like I’m putting in a lot with very little gratitude and reciprocity. I get that she is currently quite busy with university and part-time work, but I feel exhausted and used,” he vented.
He’s just not sure if pulling the plug on their relationship due to her lack of effort at home is reasonable or not.
If his girlfriend doesn’t contribute financially, should she at least lend a hand at home? Do you agree that their situation won’t last?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
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